On July 6, 2011, we found out that our lives would be forever changed. We were going to have a baby. As the pregnancy progressed, we were ecstatic to find out that it was going to be a baby girl. We had started to get everything ready for her eventual arrival. The clothes and blankets were washed and folded, the crib and dresser had arrived, and we were getting more and more excited. However, on January 24, 2012 everything changed.
That day there had seemed to be a lack of movement from the baby. We called the doctor who told us to come in for a quick check and monitor of the baby. Feeling a little relief, we headed to the hospital. Once we got back to the triage room, the nurse squirted the jelly on our pregnant belly, and then there was silence. She frantically moved the doppler all around waiting for the sound of the baby’s heart. Nothing. Doctors and nurses came in with an ultrasound machine and confirmed what they already knew: our baby had died.
We chose to be admitted and induced labor immediately. 19 hours later, on January 25, 2012 at 7:24pm, Jane was born still. While we will always be devastated by our loss, we feel lucky for the 32 ½ weeks of pregnancy and the hours we were able to hold baby Jane.
Soon after leaving the hospital, we decided that we wanted to do all we could to keep Jane’s memory alive and make a difference for parents and families that find themselves in a situation similar to ours.
The question was, what were we going to do?
One of many things that happened while at the hospital was the need for Jane’s dad and family to be in the general labor and delivery waiting room at different times. In our experience, there were two celebrating families in the waiting room with our grieving family. It was obvious that it was uncomfortable for their families and for our family. That is where the idea of Jane’s Room was created - a private space for parents and families who experience pregnancy loss, infant death, or hardship while at the hospital. We hope that families who visit Jane’s Room will understand that they are not alone, their feelings and emotions are justified, and that there is a community of families who have been through similar experiences that offer their compassion, understanding, and support. We understand how devastating and difficult these times can be for the families involved.